We all like to think we are in complete control of what we do day to day, in charge of every choice we make from the moment we wake up to when we go to sleep at night. The fact of the matter is we are not.
From birth, our brain wants to conserve as much energy as it can. This means we will form habits. Really what our brain is doing is searching for the solution that uses the least amount of energy. This includes things like the best way to get to work or your morning routine.
Once we have tried a few different ways of doing something, we tend to settle on one. A habit is then formed from the repetition of the same behaviour. Skill and, to a degree, talent (in the traditional way we view it) only comes from repeated exposure to any certain behaviour and with how much intensity we undertake it.
It is at this point that our brain will automate things so that less conscious effort is required to achieve the same result. But this is also where our brain gets a touch lazy as it doesn’t concentrate on everyday activities as much as it could.
The same happens with the stories we tell ourselves. The first time we hear a story, we have some level of understanding of what it means and how it affects our world. If the story is repeated often enough, it becomes the truth to us, even if it is fictional. The interesting thing is that we will then believe this to be the true and correct version of the story.
If someone then challenges our way of thinking, we will often become defensive as the story is part of who we are. Any attack on the story is an attack on us. This means there is real power in the stories we have in our life (love, health, finances, faith etc.), and any self-limiting or defeating story limits the full expression of our potential.
What would a story of this kind look like?
- Only the smart people get the promotion or raise
- It’s not worth investing into my health because my family has bad genetics
- Only the prince/princess is worthy of romance
- Money doesn’t grow on trees
- Only fit people work out and get a six-pack
You can see how believing one of these stories, or a variation of one, could potentially limit what you achieve in life. Remember, any story repeated often enough becomes our truth. Some of us will go through our whole life without the awareness of the story that is underpinning where we are going. And the longer we hold onto a story, the harder it can be to set it down and walk away from it. However, recognising this is the starting point for growth.
Every action you take is casting a vision for a future you. It is the repetition that then starts to rewrite your future as you are the most powerful author in your world. Whether you are 25, 50 or 80 years old, you still have a say of where you end up and the quality of life you have when you get there.
If you are unsure where to begin, find someone who can guide you in the direction you want to go—like a naturopath! Get a team that will help to hold you accountable and then get to work. Each day is a new chance to lay a brick into the foundation that will be your health. Massive action overcomes inertia so take positive steps—and then repeat!
Written by Phillip Chua
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