How Can I Help My Child?

Behavioural problems, fussy eaters, allergies and intolerances, problems socialising or adapting to new situations and poor concentration and memory at school are all very common problems parents are faced with. But what can you do about it?

Commencing development from the moment we enter the world, our belief system is the very foundation by which we make our decisions and it governs our behaviour. It is pretty much set by the time we are five years old, with most of our beliefs ingrained by the age of three. Were you capable of logical, rational thought processes by the age of three? I know I certainly wasn’t.

So, if this system isn’t based on rational thought and logical deduction, how does it form? It forms based on your experiences of the world and how you perceive what is happening to you or around you.

A child born into a wealthy family in Melbourne with loving parents and siblings is going to have a very different belief system to that of a child born at the same time in a favela in Brazil and left abandoned. It’s not that one is better or worse, it is just the different experiences in early life that create our belief system.

This system keeps expanding as we grow and have new experiences, though most of our future decisions and experience are run through our already established belief system to evaluate an outcome. Basically, we are making decisions based on beliefs that we didn’t consciously choose for ourselves, and we may not even be aware of those beliefs and why we choose to behave the way we do.

This acts as kind of a filter for us. We get bombarded with over two million bits of information or input every second. If all of that information were to get in, our brains would probably explode! So, our clever little brains created a filter system through which we run all of our experiences of the world (all those bits of information every second) and it grabs out 134 bits of information per second (that’s all we can really take in). Based on the belief system we have set up and all the filters in place, we form an opinion. This opinion then governs our behaviour and what we do with that information. The problem is that no one really stops to think about why we do what we do, we just do it.

As children, it is even more overwhelming being bombarded with all of this information and not having the maturity or fully developed critical thinking and reasoning to deal with it. This usually manifests as bad behaviour outbursts, overly sensitive and emotional children, disturbed sleep and problems adjusting. It is this emotional overload that can trigger fussy eating and food intolerances, which further exacerbates the poor behaviour.

Parents become stressed and emotional themselves trying to comprehend what is ‘wrong’ with their child and why they are behaving so badly, why they aren’t sleeping and why they get upset when placed in new situations. The parents’ stress and emotions then come into play for the child and they become even more overwhelmed.

Kinesiology can help. A stress management tool, kinesiology helps to identify stress (both conscious and unconscious) in the body, mind and emotions, and helps to release that stress and bring clarity and calm. Kinesiology helps parents and children understand their emotions and provides tools to help express them in constructive ways, rather than suppressing them or becoming overwhelmed by them.

Children respond very well to kinesiology, which is a non-invasive, gentle modality. They find it very relaxing and feel better able to deal with the information they are processing in everyday life.

Naturopathy is also beneficial in these situations to make sure the child has all the essential vitamins and minerals required for brain function and neurotransmitter synthesis.

The two modalities combined create a beautiful integration of body, mind and spirit—the perfect tools to reduce anxiety and depression, improve energy and mood and find a sense of comfort, ease and wellbeing in their own skin.

It is always beneficial for parents to have kinesiology sessions in conjunction with their child’s treatments to help manage their own stress in the situation and better understand their own belief system and why they behave as they do.


Amanda Lorch, BHSc
Naturopathic Kinesiologist

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